Merry Christmas to All

I'm choosing to do this the night before Christmas Eve because I really don't want to be on my computer for the next few days.
It truly is the most wonderful time of the year. Nothing quite compares to Christmas, it somehow just stands alone.
It's been a great week for our family however very different. Yes, Chrissie got engaged (still have to blog that, no words yet). Michael, the fiancee, came to spend a few days with us and was loads of fun. He left today to go back to Florida to spend Christmas with his family. My brother's family got snowed in in New York City while on vacation but thankfully have made it home in time for Christmas. My parents got to come spend a few extra days with us this year. They usually go to my brother's house til Christmas Eve but with them in New York we got them a little early which has been awesome. There's been lots of cooking, baking, buying, family time, friend time, but most of all Jesus time. I was determined my gift to Him this Christmas was making sure we had that time together every day even in the hustle and bustle. I was determined He would not get crowded out and I am much better for that.
There's also been plenty of sadness this month. Six of our church family members have had to deal with loss of loved ones, some unexpected, others not. Doesn't really matter though, it still hurts. A family friend of ours lost 2 of their family members within days of each other. They both lost their fathers...unfathomable heartache, can't even pretend to relate. I know it's hard at any time but the Christmas season just seems like it would be the hardest, I don't know. I just know that my prayer for them is much comfort and renewed faith.
Tomorrow is Christmas Eve, can't wait. My kids, even at their ages, still go with their Dad to prepare the candles for the candlelight service at church. I love that service. It's not only beautiful but very sacred. It always impacts me in such a huge way, don't know what I would do without it.
With a daughter engaged I've done a lot of "this is the last time for this", "the last time for that"...very very wierd feeling. It will no longer be the very same for our family but I know it will be good, just different. Remember me talking about getting used to change, yep I'm trying. It did feel like I was sending one of my own away today when Michael left so I guess that's a good sign. I just love that God created us for relationship and even at times when I've wanted to shut down so there would be no more hurt, I just can't. He created us to be in relationship with people. And as I was telling someone the other day, instead of dwelling on the "lasts" and the change taking place, I'm going to choose joy because I know that God is a great and mighty God and He is going to do great and mighty things in our midst.
Praying a very blessed Christmas for all. Keep the main thing the main thing, His name is Jesus...God with us. Praise Him!

Monday Morning Perspective

We wrapped up our Christmas series yesterday. Eddie preached that Christmas message with such passion and boldness, loved it so much.
Most of you who have known me even for a little while know how much I love this season. Like Eddie said, we love the decorations (I can be as over-the-top, cheesy as anyone), we love the presents, the food, the shopping (or at least I do, not so much Eddie), just all of it. But he is so right when he said that the real thrill is Jesus. He's the gift that never wears out, tarnishes, goes out of date. He never gets old, His mercies are new EVERY morning. He really is the thrill not only at Christmas but ALL year long.
I love how Eddie closed us out with talking about how the wise men were warned not to go home the same way. When we have truly met with Jesus, we won't go our same way either. As new believers, we experience a new life, the old has passed and the new has come. As "old" believers we have the joy of gaining a new perspective, a new attitude, a new way of thinking. I think I need that just about every day. I love that the Lord loves us just the way we are but He loves us too much to let us stay that way. I am so thankful that He is always working on me, chiseling away the stuff that doesn't need to be there whether that be habits, toxic relationships, wrong attitudes, things that can cause others to stumble. My prayer is that I will come to Him each morning, and after spending time with Him revealing Himself, will be changed, that I will go throughout my day "a different way" because of Him.

Goodness Abounds

I'm sitting here on a cold Saturday morning and very thankful that it's warm on the inside. My boys have returned from the lockout, one in the bed and one playing video games. My girls are still tucked away under the covers and my hubby at the gym. My brother called to say he and his family arestuck in New York City. They went for a quick vacation before Christmas and because of the snow storm can't fly out tonight and will probably be there til Tuesday. Like I told him, what better place to be snowed in during Christmas than NYC? I love it there but especially during the holidays.
Not too much going on today but at the same time a lot going on. My heart is full to overflowing this morning. I am so grateful of all the ways God has worked in my life and the life of my family. He has been so busy with all of us and most of it I am ashamed to say I don't recognize til I force myself to sit down and be still and quiet and start reflecting. He has been so good to us. I read a blog the other day that talked about how we shouldn't be the kind of person who looks at all the good God has done and think "oh no something bad has to happen soon because there's been to much good". I must admit I am like that at times. It's just hard to fathom so much good when you feel so undeserving but I am determined to just reflect on His goodness and be thankful.
I know that the days ahead are sure to be busy and things are always changing. I'm not one that just thrives on change, I love tradition, but I have learned to embrace change because when I trust God change never seems to be as bad as I thought it would be. It keeps life exciting. With change comes new opportunities, new relationships. I also know that when we give things and people to God He always gives back in a much more special way. Most of it is about trust and not dragging my feet as I go, just let go and let God.
I know this seems like a lot about nothing, mostly rambling. As things clear up maybe my communication will clear up a bit. Just felt the need to release a little of what's been held in but mostly just grateful to see God's hand all over the place recently. Praise Him for that because without that I don't believe I could keep taking the steps forward that need to be taken and with a joyful heart. Have a blessed Saturday and stay warm.

Monday Morning Perspective

Part 2 of our Christmas series was fabulous. Our passage was Matthew 1:18-25, His Arrival. Eddie spent the first part discussing the situation that Joseph faced as a righteous man. We saw through the message how there was tension between the law and love. The law told Joseph to do one thing to Mary but the love he felt for her told him to do something else. I love how Eddie pointed out how oftentimes we too are faced with the legalistic side of things and how judgmental we can become verses what love and grace tell us to do. Oh for the balance in our lives to have standards and stick by them and at the same time fall on the side of love and grace when dealing with people.
I guess my favorite part was when Eddie pointed out how crucial the virgin birth is in our theology. That's a truth worth fighting for. It has everything to do with Jesus being the God-Man that He claimed to be. And I love how it was pointed out that "the name makes all the difference". There is no other name by which we may be saved...AMEN.
By the way, didn't the worship center look absolutely beautiful. It took my breath away especially when the lights were dim and the trees were lit and that huge beautiful tree in the baptistry...WOW! Loved, loved, loved the white poinsettias. Thank you to our decorators, never seen the sanctuary look so beautiful!
Music was incredible as well. I just love the way the Christmas songs were arranged. Missed 9:00 but 11:11 was awesome, way to go worship band!

My Kind of Day

Even though I am a hot weather kind of girl, it's Christmas-time so I love the weather. It's about 37 degrees on a Saturday. It looks like it's going to rain or snow any minute. We have a roaring fire going and all of the Christmas lights lit. Eddie has chili cooking on the stove and it smells great. I'm spending the day wrapping presents but my favorite part is having both of my girls with me in the kitchen. We are doing some baking, some for us but some for others. I love days like this. We are just all at home with nothing pressing and nowhere to be. Thankfully most of my shopping is done. I love getting it done early so the rest of December is more relaxing and stress-free. As much as I love shopping, I hate being out there with the mob of last minute shoppers stressing over what I have to get for someone. I want the rest of the month to be about spending some fun time with my family, focused on Christ, and enjoying all of the blessings that God has so richly blessed us with this year. He is good ALL the time.

Monday Morning Perspective

We had a true blessing during worship yesterday as well as the entire weekend with the performance of the "Living Christmas Trees". What a blessing that was! It was the first for our worship leader, Bill Howard and in my opinion was the absolute best. His touch was all over it, so professional to watch. Thank you to all who served to produce such a powerful worship experience. The timing and choreography, choir and soloists, props and lighting and sound, the energy and passion of all was such a blessing. To God alone be much glory. I can hardly wait for Christmas now, it put me in the right frame of mind and heart. Love you all and so appreciate everyone's hard work!

Monday Morning Perspective

Well the morning has turned into afternoon, sorry.
We kicked off a Christmas series yesterday and it was great. I've heard so many good comments about it already. I always said my hubby could read names in a phone book and make it interesting and he did a great job with a passage of "begats".
I loved how he started out making us realize that behind every one of those names is a real person, a life, a story. And I love the importance the Jewish people placed on names. I remember even my parents always talking about how important your name is, that your name represents your family and heritage. I love that.
I think my favorite part of the sermon was when Eddie pointed out that the people in the list had nothing to offer. That's the way it is with us as well. We have nothing God needs but He adopted us into His family and allows us the priviledge of knowing Him. I don't know about you but the older I get the more I care less about what He gives me and what He can do for me. I just want to know Him, to be in an intimate relationship with Him every day so that I can hear His voice and see Him work. Seth Oprea spoke to the youth last night and one of the things he said that stuck with me is that maybe we are not witnessing amazing things that God is doing because we are not being obedient to Him and submitting to His Lordship. I want to witness every amazing thing that God will allow me to. I want to be a pure vessel through which He can move and work.
I pray that this series we are doing will have a huge impact on our Christmas season, that we may keep focused on the true meaning and all we have in Christ because He was willing to leave all in glory and come to earth for us.

Reflections

I pray everyone had an incredibly blessed Thanksgiving. We sure did. I know it's probably age but I never take for granted time spent with my family. My parents are in good health but they are in their 70s now and I don't get to see my brother and his family as often as I would like so I just treasure every moment we have together. I have good friends who have lost loved ones this past year and we get home to some tragic news of another friend losing his child. We hear about the man in Jupiter, Florida who killed so many of his family members during Thanksgiving together. It makes me so thankful to know that this is not all there is. God has a great plan for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose and we get to spend all of eternity together.
We spent Thanksgiving Day with my parents and my brother's family along with a friend of my nephew and Chrissie's boyfriend who flew in that day. I spent a lot of time that day just thinking of how blessed I am that I am rich in relationships. I would trade all the "stuff" I have for the people God has put in my life. I thought as we stood together to pray before we ate that I love these people in this room so much but I also like all of them. We are all far from perfect and I'm sure before the night was over I said something wrong or rubbed someone the wrong way. We don't always agree but thank God we don't fight either. But we really do like each other. They are my family but they are also my friends. Vickie said in sunday school this morning that we don't get to choose our family like we get to choose our friends. It is very nice when your family can be your friends as well.
We also spent some time Christmas shopping a bit. I try to help my mom get hers done while I'm home so she doesn't have to do it by herself so we got that accomplished. And of course the weekend ended great with my Gamecocks getting a big win over Clemson, of which I'm also thankful for.
Well my stomach hurts still not only because of all the food I ate but also from all the laughing I did. It was a fabulous thanksgiving and I hope yours was as well.

The ABC's of Thanksgiving

I'm going to wish you all a happy thanksgiving a day ahead of time because my plan is to be computer free for the next few days. I hope you are able to spend the holiday with those you love the most being grateful for all of your blessings. We are spending ours in Spartanburg as is the tradition for us with my parents and my brother's family and this year we have a new addition for the holiday. Chrissie's boyfriend is flying in from Florida to spend some time with us. This trip he will get to meet the rest of the fam. We will be spending a lot of time cooking, eating, shopping, and probably a lot of laughing. There will be much talking as we try to catch up with everyone and even more laughing as old stories seem to be just as funny as the new ones to tell.
One thing I do like to do around this time is to list things I am thankful for according to abc order. It's just a way of putting it on paper. Some things never change and there's always new things to add. But it never ceases to amaze me when I write it down, just how many blessings God has granted and how good He is whether we deserve it or not. May we never take even the least things for granted. A very happy thanksgiving to you all.

Monday Morning Perspective

I am so thankful for the message yesterday on thanksgiving. What a great time for Eddie and the others to be able to go to Mexico to minister and serve. There's nothing like seeing firsthand how others live to make you reflect on your blessings and that was portrayed so vividly in the message. Actually it was a somewhat rare peek into our pastor's heart and I am grateful for that. So often we just reflect on the material blessings which will never get us through the tough times of life but those spiritual blessings Eddie pointed out will. I am so thankful for those we looked at yesterday in Psalms. May we focus on those not only now at thanksgiving but every day as well. Great job honey.

It's Saturday!!

It's been a great week. Things have gone great for Eddie and our group in Mexico. Can't wait to hear more about that trip when he flies in tonight. Spending some time this morning praying for his safe return and being thankful for the salvations there and the fact that Eddie said they were so receptive. Ready for him to get home. We are picking him up at the airport in Columbia then headed to California Dreaming (yahoo) for Stephen's birthday dinner. We've been waiting for Eddie to get home to do this. Excuse me a sec...
Well, there's an unwanted visitor in my daughter's room, a lizard. The only 2 people in the house who will deal with this are not here. Eddie's enroute from Mexico and Stephen is where else, Gold's Gym. So...we are just going to sit and watch it til Stephen gets home. Yes, John is here but he's as much help as me and the girls.
Anyway, got to spend yesterday with my girls doing some Christmas shopping. When you don't have them with you all the time to do that you learn to treasure those times as I'm sure many of you know. I've definitely learned not to take even the smallest quickest trip to Target for granted if I can do it with my kids. We grabbed some lunch, bought some gifts, made a run through the Starbucks drive through and had lots of conversation. A friend said to me the other night that one of the things about your kids driving on their own is it cuts out a lot of good conversation time. So true! It's convenient for them to be able to drive but as busy as we are and you have to drive them everywhere they are kinda trapped in your car. I have had some of the best conversations with my kids in the car as we go. Lots of them are deep thought provoking or challenging or counseling type conversations and many are just fun what's going on what kinda day has it been talks. I love all of them and I miss them not happening as often for sure.
Almost forgot the awesome concert Thursday night we went to with David Crowder. He puts on a great show but it is also a tremendous worship experience. Chrissie got to come home that day with no class this Friday so we all got to go minus Eddie of course. I get to have her home til Monday (no class that day) then she's taking Jessica back with her. We are meeting them in Spartanburg for a long family Thanksgiving weekend starting Tuesday night. Chrissie's boyfriend is flying in on Thursday to join us so should be a great time but more on Thanksgiving later. Have a super blessed Saturday and pray everyone's Sunday is a day of worship!

18? Are you kidding me?

A very happy birthday to Stephen who is 18 today. I am picking myself up off of the floor over this one. Just absolutely cannot believe it's been 18 years. Nothing like your childrens birthdays to make you really believe that this life moves by at a rapid pace.
Stephen, you are the biggest thrill ride God has ever given me. There were days I wondered if I would survive you, if you would survive me, or if either of us would survive! You have given me more belly laughs and more gray hair all at the same time. We named you well when we named you Stephen. Stephen of the Bible was full of grace and at the same time full of boldness and you are so like that. You have more compassion than I could ever muster and at the same time competitive and aggressive down to the very marrow. What God has and can do with you if you remain sold out for Him. Noone could ever accuse you of giving less than 100% in all you do (except occassionally with schoolwork). You are the hardest worker and most energetic kid I have ever known. You do everything at 100mph. I stand amazed most of the time. I love you more than you can imagine and am equally proud of you. Enjoy your special day, you deserve it all.
By the way, I hope your roomies understand when I come into your dorm next year on your birthday and wake you up singing happy birthday. I'm sure they will understand. Love you Bubba!

Monday Morning Perspective

This post will be a bit different than most mmp posts. Eddie is out of town with the Mexico mission crew so he didn't preach yesterday. I did make it to sunday school and the 11:11 service. I am so blessed to be able to teach with Vickie Oprea this year. I know that our lessons are geared toward students but they are so applicable to me as well. Vickie is a great teacher and I get as much out of the lesson each week as our girls do. Thanks Vickie for always feeding us so well on God's Word. Jake did a great job as he filled in for Eddie. He preaches with passion and conviction. The music over the past weeks has certainly set the stage for the message to be presented with power. We are a blessed people.
Please pray for our group in Mexico. I am praying that God would show off continually this week as they not only meet some physical needs of the people there but also spiritual needs. Pray that the messages Eddie preaches will be clear and Jesus would shine forth as the only hope we have, the Savior of the world. Pray that the people there would feel the love that can only come from Christ in the hearts of our people there. As our people leave, may they leave Christ with many who will come to know Him this week for He will never leave us or forsake us. May God get MUCH glory and honor this week. May He alone receive praise and honor as we know He is the only one worthy. Thank you to those willing to go and share.

Random Stuff Again

I'm in the process of getting my carpet cleaned so it seems like a perfect time to blog since I'm limited to the things I can do. I'll just blog some random stuff.
Eddie's been at the convention all week in Columbia. He leaves for Mexico on Saturday for a mission trip so really feeling like we need to play catch-up and then get-ahead. Hopefully tomorrow I can get penciled in on a very busy man's schedule. That's a hint honey if you are reading this.
Chrissie's sick with a cold. No matter how old they get you still want to be the one getting them some meds, ginger ale and making chicken soup. Hope you feel better sweet girl. She has so much school work to get done before Thanksgiving so it's a terrible time to feel bad. Would love prayers going up for her!
Jessica has been my workout buddy lately. It's so nice to have her to hang with during the morning, ok well late morning hours, before she heads off to work.
Stephen started his final time of conditioning with the South Aiken baseball team this week. He's a senior. So hard to believe this will be his final season. He's played since 7th grade with them and it feels like only a few years. Gonna miss that boy next year.
John had his 1st showcase this past weekend for baseball. He got the award for best change-up (that's a pitch just in case you are not a baseball fan). He threw 82 which is awesome for a sophomore. So proud of him. He's playing school basketball as well so he is tremendously busy right now, but hard work always pays off.
Me? Well, trying to finish my Christmas decorating and have GOT to start my shopping. I have a feeling that this is going to be a holiday season like no other. It's always busy but it seems like so much is getting put on the family calendar. Praying hard that we keep Christ at the center of all of it. Do not want to "miss Christmas" for anything. So excited about Thanksgiving. I have really missed seeing my brother and his family lately, can't wait to catch up with them. The older I get the more those things matter more than presents and "stuff". Just longing for a lot of family time and connection right now. Hope you all have a blessed rest of the week.

Monday Morning Perspective

What an awesome day of worship we had yesterday. So wish I would not have missed the 9:00. I heard great things about that service.
I loved our message on Gideon. I could relate so well to all of it. I have been the coward, the careless and the committed at many times throughout my life. How I long to stay in the committed group but still so often fall into one of the other two. I thought about how many times I feel so strong and yet when the pressure is on I crumble. I know I have to stay in His Word and on my knees to remain prepared for the battles that are always waiting to be raged against me and boy do they seem to come from every direction and hurts the most when they are raged from people and places we would least expect.
My favorite part was when Eddie talked about the Ephraimites and I thought about how I would never want to be one. He mentioned how selfish Ephraimites are, always concerned with how they are treated. They don't care how they treat others. I've heard so many people lately talk about how so-and-so didn't speak to them or so-and-so didn't invite them. I just want to scream "GET OVER IT, WHO CARES!". I also want to ask them how many people they snub or how many times they leave people out of things. We need to grow up and yes that includes me as well. God forgive us all for our complaining and our mean-spiritedness. Being reminded that God took note of it and He did deal with it should be a warning for all of us. Thank God for His mercy, may we echo that mercy towards others.

It's beginning to look a lot like...Christmas?!

Really? Already? November 1st is my day to get started. I've always let my kids get through Halloween before I get started with my Christmas decorating but November 1st is it. So the boxes are out and the decorations have started going up. This is my favorite time of the year, other than summertime of course, and I just can't wait to get it started. I was so excited yesterday when I read a fellow pastor's wife's blog and she had started her Christmas decorating. It made me feel a little less wierd for the moment. I wait until close to Thanksgiving to put the outside decor up because my kids get a little embarrassed when others can see that we are decorating for Christmas so early. Last year I freaked a little because someone in the neighborhood got their outside stuff up before me. Needless to say the next day it was going up. I like to get the house decorated and all the shopping done so that December isn't so stressful and I can just focus on enjoying it all and my focus can shift from tinsel and presents to the greatest present of all, the birth of Christ. My prayer for all as the season begins is that Christ would be so real to us and we would look for opportunities to share Him with all that we come in contact with. That He would show off in amazing ways and we wouldn't miss it because we are stressed and busy. Let me be the first to say Merry Christmas!

The Perfect Game-The Perfect Trip Part 2

I know I am behind but I'm trying to maintain priorities and I had to get away from this last week for hectic demands. Anyway, I'm back to finish the post...
Stephen's game to pitch was Sunday at 12:40. We had to win to win our pool and go into the next round of games which could lead to the championship. Word of warning, I'm going to put my mom hat on and brag so if you can't stomach that turn this off now.We allow no bragging on self around here but a mom always has license to brag on her own.
Stephen rocked. I have no idea how you perform under the pressure of so many people and scouts watching you and pitch a need-to-win game but somehow he seems to rise to that occassion.Trust me, I take NO credit for that. I would have told the coach I was sick (which probably would have been true) but I could never have stood up to that pressure now or at his age. He gave up 1 hit, there was 1 error and we won. It was awesome. I told him he should hug the neck of his infield because they made every play, only 2 fly balls to the outfield which they made, and an incredible pitching performance. Of course Stephen says it's easy to pitch with that kind of defense behind you. He knew if he got them to hit ground balls the play would be made, he was right. I'm so proud of him for being able to perform under pressure. I think it's true in our Christian walk as well. Sometimes it's easy to do the right things at church or when we are with Christian friends or we are living in our parents house and they are always watching us, but what about when the pressure's on? What about when noone's watching? What about when we are around others making wrong choices? Do we still perform? Do we still do what's right? Eddie and I tried to raise our children where of course there was a fear of the consequences we would inflict upon them for wrong choices but it has to go further than that. We knew that the fear of us would only last so long. They would spend time away from us and eventually live away from us. We wanted them to be able to perform under pressure when the only thing was do what's right because it's right. God is always watching and we always want Him to be happy with our performance.
Anyway, we went into the single elimination round, played 2 more games that day winning both of them. We played Monday in the semi-finals and lost that one. We were within 1 game of getting to the championship but it was a great run. Out of 85 teams we came in 3rd so that's pretty good.
I am also proud of those guys on the team whom Stephen said were very welcoming to him as the new kid. They all introduced themselves to him before the 1st night was over and treated him like one of the guys. No wonder they play so well together, they are a team in every sense of the word. That's also a word for our churches, but that's another post.

Monday Morning Perspective

Well,I do know that I have a tendency to be wordy but I do know when to shut up or say nothing most of the time. The only thing to say about yesterday is "Absolutely Amazing". The presence of God's Spirit was overwhelming. Loved it honey.

The Perfect Game-The Perfect Trip

I'm sitting here on a very rainy and cold Tuesday, missing the beautiful, sunny, warm (actually hot which is how I like it) Florida. We are back from our whirlwind trip that came up fairly quickly. Stephen pitched against a team out of Charleston called the Diamond Devils a few weeks ago. He did very well so they invited him to go with them to pitch in Jupiter, Florida at The Perfect Game. It was a championship tournament that they have every year there for teams who had earned their way there. It's where pro and college scouts come to see players to recruit or draft. Every college team and pro team have their people there to watch. I was warned but nothing can quite prepare you for the hundreds of golf carts riding around with these scouts and the hundreds of people that are there. There were 85 teams playing from all over the country. It was simply amazing. Here's a recap...
We arrived in Jupiter on Thursday afternoon for Stephen to meet with the Diamond Devils for workouts and dinner. He stayed with them because that's what they do when they travel. I was a little nervous since he wouldn't know anyone but he said the coaches and players were great at introducing themselves and treating him like one of their own. We enjoyed a great dinner at The Yard House thanks to Chrissie's boyfriend Michael Hux leading us around. He lives in West Palm Beach so we got to spend some time with him.
Friday was a full day. Thankfully it didn't start early and it was a gorgeous 87 degrees with a breeze through those palm trees. As soon as we walked through the gate I knew it was going to be something like we had never experienced. They played the games at the St. Louis Cardinals and Florida spring training facility. Fields were manicured, people everywhere. DD played at 12:30, won that game, then turned around and played at 3:00 and won that one too. This team can play!! It was like watching a college team play. They played together as a team, cheered for each other, no errors, outstanding pitching. You could tell they were well coached and they came to play. There was no fooling around, it was all business but loads of fun. I guess winning usually is fun though.
Saturday started early, 10am game. The deal was if they won, they got a free afternoon with family. Lose and it was practice. Praise God they won so we got Stephen til 10 that night. We grabbed some lunch at The Thirsty Turtle and watched college football on their tvs then headed for the beach. The water was so blue and gorgeous, it was breezy and warm, awesome afternoon. We spent dinner at Duffy's Sports Bar and Grille surrounded by about 50 tvs and 5 different college football games, great fun. We got Stephen back by 10 and turned him back over to the team. He would be the starter for Sunday's game at 12:30 so he needed a good night's sleep. Continue this tomorrow.

Monday Morning Perspective

What a great day of worship yesterday. Music was awesome and great crowds in both services. A great day at Millbrook.
The message from IPeter was great as always. I loved how Eddie started the message mentioning the fact that we as Christians walk to a different tune and we don't journey through life as tourists. I think so many times we fail to get involved in things because we know that we are just passing through this world but God put us here for a purpose and we need to be making a difference. My favorite part was on our adversary. Eddie mentioned how we need to be alert and Spirit-controlled. Sometimes we need to flee and resist the devil and sometimes God calls us to arm ourselves and stand firm and fight. We are not called to fight as the world does and do battle in our own strength but we are to put on the armour of God and fight in His strength. We overcome by prayer and the Word. The reminder that we as Christians are on the same team and we need to have each other's backs was a great reminder. So often we spend our time fighting with each other and competing with each other and that puts the focus where Satan wants it. We are on the same team and should be working together to win these battles against Satan instead of fighting with one another over trivial little things that are nothing more than petty distractions. Have a blessed Monday.

Pastor Appreciation

October is Pastor Appreciation month so I want to do a shout out to my favorite pastor ever. Top Ten Reasons I love my pastor:
10) He's awfully good to look at.
9) He's great at the balancing act of ministry/family time.
8) He feeds the sheep EVERY week. He never enters the pulpit unprepared.
7) He is totally passionate about ministry.
6) He loves God's Word.
5) He never seems to give up on people.
4) He's a fabulous Dad.
3) He's a much better leader than he gives himself credit for.
2) He surrounds himself with great people and is always willing to listen and
learn from them. He checks the ego at the door for the good of the kingdom.
1) The number one reason I love my pastor is he is my special gift from God and
I never tire of hanging with him or hearing him preach God's Word.

Monday Morning Perspective

Hope everyone made it to church yesterday and sincerely pray that if you did you received an anointed message the way those of us at Millbrook did. Eddie delivered a great message yesterday that truly was great for anyone to hear but especially good for ministers and leadership. He preached about the role of a pastor, responsibilities of a pastor, and the rewards of being a pastor.
Several points that struck a chord with me:
1) Don't choose a church based on programs, worship style or other "things". Choose a church home based on whether or not the Word of God is proclaimed. So many choose a church based on what the church can do for them or what they enjoy but the message is the main thing. We should be able to worship God with a variety of music styles but if the Word is not taught or only referred to we will never grow up in the faith.
2) A pastor should guard the sheep. I am so glad that Eddie is jealous for us in that he does not allow just anyone to come before us and preach. He makes sure they are biblically sound and preach in line with God's Holy Word. I must say I am the same way when it comes to our women's ministry whether someone is speaking or leading one of our studies or we are studying under a bible teacher. We cannot afford to be too careful when we sit under someone handling God's Word.
3) Be willing to lead. I am so glad that Eddie still gets excited about ministry. He has such a passion for what he does. It's hard to believe that any minister couldn't get excited about working for God but there are plenty of them. We are very blessed.
Great message Hon.

Enjoy

In love with Self

Before I get into this...yes I facebook, yes I twitter---have my reasons, mostly it's just fun and a great way to communicate with those that I want to communicate with. Some things about it I hate, namely statusing every thought or feeling or trying to jab someone and actually hitting the wrong person. That stuff makes me crazy!!
Now...
I saw this weekend where a college coach has banned twitter for his players. Now as a coach I believe he has the right to do that. If you are going to be on his team he sets the rules, if you don't like it go to another team. He commented that he thinks it's just over the top that people think others are so interested in them and what they're doing (agree) and he doesn't want any tweeting about football and his team. The NBA I understand did that as well because players were doing it on the bench...unbelieveable. Get your mind on the game, be a player.
I think the college football coach has a point. We are a self-absorbed culture anyway. For the most part we really do believe that everyone cares what we're doing and where we're going. I think we have bought into the idea that the world would stop if we were not in it. Have to say I am kinda tired of being around those who think this is their world and we are just all a little speck in it. I've been around enough snotty ones to last me forever. I know that a lot of us are quiet by nature and not so outgoing and so our being reserved is seen by many as being snobby. I always try to look more at how people carry themselves more than by how much they say because I like those who have discipline with using their tongue so much. I don't sit and judge people by how they look but so often you can tell by the way someone "enters a room" whether they think "ok everything can start now, I'm here". UGH. I'm tired of people tooting their own horn about "all I do" translated "this or that could not go on if it weren't for me" or people boasting about their gifts or athletic ability or even boasting about how friendly they are compared to others. OH MY, sometimes I think we've reached an all time low. God's Word says if we are going to boast, boast in the Lord Jesus. He alone is the only one worthy of boasting about and the only one we should truly be interested in what He is doing and what He is up to. Noone else's stuff really makes any difference.

Renew our mind

I know I am doing better in my resolve to work out because I went to the gym this morning on a cold (by my standards 57 degrees) rainy monday morning. Normally that would have been the perfect excuse to stay home but I didn't. So, I grabbed my ipod but couldn't find my earphones, immediately blamed the kids and took John's off of his desk. When I got to the gym and put in his earphones I then knew he had to be the one who took mine because the left earphone on his didn't work. I jumped on the treadmill and started my workout. Here's the problem... when just one of those earphones doesn't work you can't completely tune out the stuff "out there" that you don't want to hear. In my right ear I was getting my christian music and in my left ear getting that trash music from the gym radio. I promise you it took over half my time there to finally be able to tune that music out. It was the most annoying thing. Then I started thinking how often I have "God stuff" going in one of my ears, by choice, and I let the "world stuff" go in my other ear, by choice. I read God's Word but then listen to the viewpoints of The View. I try to focus on God's view for marriage and family and then on tv see a "reality" show with a family falling apart and mom and dad making money off of putting that on tv for all to see. We go to church and talk about grace and mercy yet we go home and slam those we call our friends and church family. Romans 12:2 tells us that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our mind yet there's a battle for our mind going on and so many times we let stuff in that clutters it. God made me so aware this morning by my earphone problem how diligent I have to be and focused when it comes to my mind. I have to be careful what I listen to and watch and how easily Satan can get in if we just have one of our ears tuned to him. We are not called to be lukewarm. We are called to be totally hot for Him and we can only do that with His help being very careful what we watch, listen to, and who we listen to.

Monday Morning Perspective

Yesterday was awesome! I went to 9 and 11:11 and I think that will have to become a habit if I can trust my kids to get up on their own and get to sunday school on time, still to be determined. The music was great in both services, loving our new minister of music and the energy he brings. Oh that we would feed off of that energy as we worship. My goal is usually that when we finish singing and sit to hear what Eddie has for us that I am absolutely exhausted. I want to worship with everything that I am.
Eddie had a great sermon yesterday as we continued this journey on suffering. He pointed out that this life is a marathon and a battlefield. If we remember that, it keeps things in perspective. It went along so well with the study I am doing right now on the battles we face and our attitude when we're in the midst of them. I like how he pointed out that when we are going through suffering that it can be a gift as God chips away the things in our life that are holding us back or keeping us down. The chipping process can be painful at times but we just have to keep our hearts focused on the reward that is set before us. It may be circumstances or habits or even people that He is busy at work chipping away from us so that we can better focus on Him. I thought a lot about whether I am someone God can trust. I'm not sure that I am. I want to be but in my flesh I don't want to have to endure the things that may prove my trustworthiness. It's kinda like we want to share in His glory but not the fellowship of His sufferings, the Bible calls us to both. My prayer each day is that I would be found faithful not because of me but because of who He is in my life. I love Him so and my heart's desire is that His purpose for my life would be my true heart's desire. Eyes on Him, focus off of myself.

Following His Call

I have been on a roll the past few weeks and it all really came together in the last few days. I know when God rattled my cage a bit in regards to my schedule He began to tell me, "do what I've called you to do". True I had pushed a few things to the back burner mainly because of some circumstances that I felt like He wanted me to at the time. Lots of things were going on and He prompted me to "sit and wait for Him". So that's what I did. Well the last few weeks He has called me to pick some things back up and go forth and I'm so excited. I learned a long time ago that without clear direction from Him I had rather slow down and wait rather than get ahead of Him. Ahead of Him is NEVER where I want to be, but nothing is more exciting than following His call on my life. Of course there are times He says step out in faith and there's very little direction until you begin to step. The main thing He called me to many years ago was to my family. That has always been my #1 priority. Nothing makes me happier or feel more at peace than when I'm focused on them and being a wife and mom. That's my #1 calling. He also called me to do ministry alongside my husband. I love that role. It's a role that scared me to death early on (even though Eddie always reminds me that I knew what I was getting into although you never really know, honey) but I absolutely love being a pastor's wife. I've never wanted to do anything that would hurt him or his ministry which is a huge responsibility but I love it. Following His call is always an adventure and certainly never boring. Actually, it's an amazing life.

He's rattling my cage again...Part 2

One of the things God led me to when He was warning me about all the negative around me and how easy it is to get pulled into that was the story of the spy mission into the promised land. The spies allowed their fear to immobilize them when they should have been moving ahead. We absolutely can't be paralyzed by the negativity. We have to move on and trust God.

We also discussed in bible study about "God talk". Beth pointed out how there are a lot of people who can do the "God talk" as well as anyone but when you look at their life there is no power, no victory. There just seems to be many of us who want power but it's the wrong kind of power. We want power over circumstances and other people. We want to control things in our churches and we have a desire for power and status. In Matthew 23 Jesus made strong accusations against those who hunger for power, money, status. It makes us lose sight of God and spreads quickly to others. Eddie mentioned not long ago in a sermon about how Satan tries to counterfeit everything God does and he can make it look very real. I think one of the most important things God has been showing me is that people, even those in our churches, can be counterfeits. They talk the "God talk" but all they really are interested in is having man power and feeling important and wanting their way. We need to be very careful because I believe as we get closer to the end times it will be harder and harder to tell the difference.
He has also changed up my schedule a bit lately, not a bad thing. It has allowed me to spend much more time with Him and become a little more focused and has definitely cleared up my hearing. Two things He has pointed out: 1) I have GOT to be more serious in my spiritual walk with Him and 2) I have GOT to be more serious in my physical workouts. So...I have entered into training. I have taken my time with Him to a new level---more prayer time, which I had slacked off in, and more time in the Word, and that means more than just reading a passage and moving on like I had done my time for the day. The prayer conference convicted me of a need for taking cleansing more seriously and repentance. He has also brought me a study that I am working through about the battles we face and the need to stand firm and fight (not the way the world fights). I am also doing a minimum of 4 days a week in the gym. This is definitely my bigger challenge because I can find every excuse in the world not to do it but I AM DETERMINED! I need to get back to the disciplines of the faith and some discipline in regard to my health.
When people rattle my cage, it's annoying and aggravating, but when Jesus does it it's not so bad. He's full of grace and mercy. I'm still learning that it is always best to let Him set our priorities and order our steps. I'm really enjoying what He's doing with mine lately. Hopefully I won't get in His way.

He's rattling my cage again...Part 1

Word of warning, this is gonna be a 2 parter or more. "Experts" in the blog world tell us that people don't like to read long blogs so I'm sure I will have to break this one up since I feel full and I'm very wordy.


You know I have never heard God speak in an audible voice, many times it's much louder than that. I don't know how it is in your life but it seems like when I start dealing with something that everywhere I turn He puts it before me whether in a sermon, bible study, a good friend sharing with me, overhearing word on the street, however. I think that's because I'm thick-headed and He knows He just has to keep beating me over the head and then sometimes just jerk the rug out from under my feet and scream, "Now will you listen to me?". The last few weeks I've been cowering saying, "Ok Lord, you don't have to scream it anymore. You have my undivided attention." Do you ever get there? Maybe I get so busy that it affects my hearing but trust me I have been listening up lately and it has been sweet. Just left wondering why it takes me so long to get it.

It usually starts with discouragement or aggravation, something of that nature. This time it happened to be discouragement. Once again I was faced with the fact that everyone or everything is not always how it seems or wants to seem. That some people have motivation for doing things even calling it ministry that at the bottom line is nothing more than selfishness or a desire for self glory. That scares me a bit because I know God shares His glory with noone and I have seen the discipline on lives that try to get something that belongs to God alone. Well, that has been one lesson that I've had to learn yet again.

Then just when you need it God brings encouragement. I met with the college girls Monday night for their bible study. As I watched these young women turn through the Word and soak up the teaching that was coming from a Beth Moore study, I could've cried. I've always thought if they catch that hunger for God's Word early it will carry them through their life. I have seen some of them catch it and there's nothing more exciting. The message was on friendship, I think I needed it more than them. Beth shared how there's a huge difference between true friends and associates and how true friends can probably be counted on one hand and maybe our wrist. How true is that. One of the girls said she thought about all her facebook "friends". Maybe they should be called facebook "associates". It's funny how we talk to those people like we really know them and most of them we really don't. It's also amazing to me how we will talk on the computer but we see them face to face and we act like we've never met. Facebook is a great thing and I use it myself but I have to make myself keep some perspective. I hate that it seems to have cut out our face to face conversation skills. We will text or email stuff that we would never say in person. It also can move from being fun to trying to get a point across to someone that usually doesn't even realize we're talking to them or we're not talking to them but some assume we are. It's truly crazy at times. Anyway, the message on true friendship and what that means was awesome and I love to see these girls prioritizing bible study when I know how very busy they are.

On the heels of that I read a fellow pastor's wife's blog and she was talking about the people we surround ourselves with. She said that strength is found in shared passions and similar commitments. She said do not be fooled into thinking that you are strong because there's a lot of people around you. Do an assessment of who you can count on. She said it is better to have 2 people with her with like minds, commitments, and passions than 200 who can't support her purpose for being here. I thought that was great insight and I needed to hear that.

I know it's already long so I'll stop and do the rest (hopefully) tomorrow. Blessings.

Gifts and Talents

Stephen spoke to the youth last night during their worship service. The place was full of middle-schoolers who, much to my surprise, were extremely attentive. They were incredibly attentive. His message was on service and he did a great job challenging the kids to allow God to use them wherever they are. He explained that God places us in certain places and those places are to be seen as our mission field, whether school, or a ballfield, or wherever. That kinda led to our discussion (which seems to be an ongoing discussion in our house) about God's call and how the talents we have are meant to be about Him and not about us. We are to use them to further His kingdom not our kingdom. We also talked about how spiritual gifts are only given to Christians to be used for the Church. We discussed how the things that we as Christians enjoy and are good at are placed within us by God to lead us to our calling. God places desires in our hearts. He wants us to have an abundant life. I just think it's amazing when our talents and our spiritual gifts collide and God gets much glory! I guess since sports has been such a huge part of our life we talk a lot about using that platform to serve God. I think so many of us get caught up in our service and ministry being "in" the church instead of "about" the Church. In our culture sports is such a god to people and people (even adults) will listen to athletes talk about God when they won't listen to anyone else. So I love to see God take athletes with their talent and mix it with say the gift of evangelism or service and get much glory. I love the Tim Tebow story and how he takes every opportunity to point others to Christ. There's nothing better than taking what we believe and the Truth we know and living it out in the real world. Stephen's challenge to the students to do that was great.
Another baseball weekend ahead for us. At least this time it's not 4 hours away only 2 1/2. I think this weekend will be special for many reasons even though it's about baseball nothing is ever "just about baseball". Last weekend God showed us some ugly sides of people being all about themselves in the world of sports and that led beautifully into this week with Stephen sharing on serving others. Believe it or not everyone isn't about their team or their teammates and most certainly not about God being any part of that atmosphere. God's great at taking the ugly stuff of life and teaching us what life is supposed to be about. I hate the ugly stuff but they sometimes make for better teaching opportunities with my kids than just the good, fun stuff. He is so good and so faithful. I can't wait to see what He shows us this weekend.

He Never Lets Go

Technology is still rather new to me. I'm starting to get used to my ipod and how to work it. Several of my kids got new ones for Christmas so I got one of their old ones, that's what moms do isn't it...get the leftovers. It was fine with me because it still worked and it wasn't so high-tech that I couldn't figure it out. It soon became my motivation for going to the gym because I could listen to my praise and worship music while I worked out so working out didn't seem like such a bore. I have had people look at me funny because I do sometimes forget that I'm in public while I want to sing out loud. I also used it on the beach this summer while laying out. I saw my girls laughing and come to find out they were laughing at me because I was singing along thinking I was barely whispering but it must have been louder than I thought. My question for them was, "how do you listen to your worship music without just bursting out singing along?" Their answer was that they kept in mind that they were in public. I guess when you're my age you just don't worry so much about embarrassing yourself anymore. Lord knows I've been embarrassed enough I'm kinda used to it. Anyway,that's not what this blog is about but I remembered that this morning when I was in the gym and Matt Redmon's song came on my ipod, You Never Let Go. It is one of my favorites. Yes, I have lots of favorites. This song just reminds me so much of how God is always with us and never lets go of us. It also reminded me of how important it is to have good Christian friends who walk with us through this life and don't let go. Ministry is a hard place to be and have good friends. Sometimes they are friends for different reasons, self-help reasons. Other times when ministry gets hard, fair-weather friends have a hard time holding on and standing by you. But I guess that's how it is with life in general. Life is hard and some just want to walk with us when things are good and fun and easy. Solid Christian friends who stand by through thick and thin are hard to come by. I am so grateful to have a God who never lets go but also we have some wonderful friends, in ministry and elsewhere, who have shown true honest friendship. Ministry friends know what you go through. They understand like others couldn't possibly understand. Some friends are in other churches who you can share with and not have to deal with "church stuff" with them. You spend time with them outside "church stuff" and they allow you to be yourself and they truly get it that you're just ordinary trying to live out the calling of Christ on your life. Others are friends who haven't yet "bought into" the christian life. They don't quite get it but what's refreshing about them is they really are themselves around you. They don't try to impress you, they don't want anything from you.

I guess what this is all about is realizing how important relationships are in my life. I've always believed that God doesn't put anyone in our life without a purpose. The older I get the more I realize too what a waste of time being petty is. Life is so much bigger than the petty little selfish things we try to make such a big deal about. There are enough hurricanes without worrying about the rain showers. I want to invest my time in solid relationships and gaining more Godly wisdom. Lord knows I need both.

Lyrics from You Never Let Go...enjoy:

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death Your perfect love is casting out fear. And even when I'm caught in the middle of the storms of this life, I won't turn back I know You are near. And I will fear no evil, for my God is with me. And if my God is with me, whom then shall I fear, whom then shall I fear. Oh no You never let go through the calm and through the storm. Oh no You never let go every high and every low. Oh no You never let go Lord you never let go of me.

And I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on. A glorious light beyond all compare. And there will be an end to these troubles but until that day comes we'll live to know You here on the earth. And I will fear no evil. For my God is with me. And if my God is with me. Whom then shall I fear? Whom then shall I fear? Oh no You never let go through the calm and through the storm. Oh no You never let go every high and every low. Oh no You never let go Lord you never let go of me.

You keep on lovin and You never let go.

Yes I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on. And there will be an end to these troubles but until that day comes. Still I will praise You. Still I will praise You.

Random Stuff

Thursday! Already! Such a fast week I suppose because of Monday being a holiday. My whole week has been turned around. Just wanted to drop a quick blog before the weekend gets going full steam ahead.
We spent yesterday at Spartanburg Methodist College with Stephen. It was a college day for him and our second visit there to talk with the baseball coaches who want him to come there and play for them. That coaching staff has to be 2nd to none. They are all so personable with substance. They show forth strong character and a tremendous reputation for what they do. We had a great visit with them but still remains to be seen if that will be the school of Stephen's choosing. He has some other options and it has been months of praying and seeking God's very best. We're just really trusting that God will continue to guide and we will be faithful to follow. It was an extra treat to get to spend time with my mom and dad. They live about 2 miles (my dad has measured) from SMC. They do such a great job praying for Stephen but not making him feel like he has to go there for them. Also got to see my sweet girl Chrissie. She's about an hour away at Anderson University so she drove over to hang out and of course have dinner. I could be spending a lot of time on the road this next year if 2 of my 4 land in the upstate. Good thing it's one of my favorite places.
We head to North Georgia tomorrow for a weekend baseball tournament. Stephen and John are playing but on different teams which means for Saturday and Sunday I will GET to see 6 baseball games. Oh yeah, I said 6. So glad I learned to love baseball a long time ago. God knew I would be spending a lot of time around the diamond.
The only negative about being in N. Ga. is that I will miss a very exciting time at our church Sunday. Our new minister of music/worship begins his ministry with us Sunday. I love him and his family already. I know you will too if you have just 2 minutes around them. They have such a heart for God and a passion for ministry that you don't always find even among ministers. Millbrook is truly blessed and so are the Leopards for being able to serve alongside of them. Needless to say there will be no monday morning perspective since I won't be there but I do know you are in for a blessing so don't miss it.
One more thing before signing off...sooo excited about the bible studies through our women's ministry this fall. We have 81, yes 81, signed up for our Thursday Beth Moore study. Can you believe that! God is doing such a work. I don't have numbers for Disciplers on Wednesday morning for our women and children's study but I can't wait to hear because it is always an incredible group. We are also starting back with a study for our college age girls. Last time we combined them with our 20somethings but this time it is just for them. They will be meeting on Monday nights so pray for that group as they dive into God's Word together. Having said that just let me say a word to you regarding our studies. I always tell our women that bible study is not just for knowledge sake. It is meant to allow God to teach us and work in us and through us. See, we can know all that the bible says and not intimately know the God of the Word. The goal is to KNOW HIM not ABOUT HIM. The goal of our studies is always to see God change lives through the scripture. It's not about a program. It's about His living, active Word transforming lives. So whether you are new to bible study or been studying for many years, there's always something new to be learned. You see He is a God who is always the same yet forever revealing Himself in new ways. If you haven't signed up yet jump on in, we'd love to have you. That's where the best of friends can be made.
Ok, that's it. Hope it's random enough for you. So many different things going on. Reminder to pray for not only the church you attend but how about other churches. Eddie has always said that if they are lifting up Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, crucified, buried, resurrected and coming again, pray God's blessings on them. The Church needs prayer. We need to tap into the power source and be a mighty force together no matter where we choose to worship on Sunday. BE THE CHURCH!!

Monday Morning Perspective

All I have to say about Eddie's sermon yesterday is INCREDIBLE. Loved it, loved it, loved it. I love sermons like that when we have to "put on our thinking caps". That one made me think a lot. I can tell you the one thing I really walked away with from the message was how I need to be more bold in my witness. If we truly believe that a place like hell exists for those without Christ, we should make it a priority in our life to share Him with everyone. Eddie painted such vivid pictures in my mind yesterday and I hate to think there are those around me headed straight to hell if they die and I kept my mouth shut for whatever reason. Sometimes it just comes down to how much we really believe something and how much we care about other people. I'm getting to the point in my life where I believe all the more strongly in relationships and people. When it all comes down it really isn't about the stuff we have but the relationships we have developed. Since people are really the only things we can take with us to heaven shouldn't we spend more time developing relationships with others instead of accumulating more and more stuff.
I'm reading a great book right now by Bill Hybells called Just walk across the room. DO NOT READ THIS unless you are ready to get convicted. It is slapping me all over the place. One of the things he talks about is that if we truly believe in this God we say we do then why aren't we sharing him with others. It all boils down to "do we really believe Him".
Well it is Labor Day and we are definitely not laboring at our house. It has been a lazy, enjoy the fam kind of day. The only thing missing is my eldest but according to all sources she has had an incredible weekend herself. Our last major "summer" cookout is on the horizon so I better get my stuff together. Hate to think of summer ending but the positive for the fall is football, gotta love it. Have a blessed day. Love to you all.

25 years and counting

Our 25th wedding anniversary was Sept. 1st. We had an amazing day at our mountain cabin in the same area that we enjoyed our honeymoon. We started the day with a late breakfast at Old Mill which was delicious. We spent a lot of time at the outlets and ended the day at our favorite restaurant ever, The Peddler. It's the neatest place on the river with incredible food and atmosphere. It really was the perfect day!
It's so hard to believe it's been 25 years. Time really does fly. I have to admit that marrying Eddie is the best decision I ever made after accepting Christ as my Savior. It's amazing when I think of how God brought us together. It's just something that never should have happened. Our meeting came totally out of nowhere and by all human standards would never have happened and certainly never should have ended this way. Like I've said before neither one of us is perfect but I like to think we are perfect for each other. We kinda balance each other out, smooth out each others rough edges. I think one of the main things for me is that he truly is my friend. We established a friendship long before we tried dating and really like each other. Like is an important factor in marriage. Sometimes the like takes you places you need to go when love gets difficult. We're in that place right now where we are seeing our kids become less dependent and empty nest is around the corner. Neither of us is excited about that because our favorite times have always been "just the 6 of us" times. Stephen labeled that when he was very little and would say "I just want it to be the 6 of us". I just love that. Family, all 6 of us, has always been the most important part of our life, the most fun part of our life, and the most exhausting part of our life. But as that empty nest looms closer, it is nice to know that we do still like each other. I'd rather be with him, talk to him, be quiet with him, just hang with him, raise kids with him, worship with him, more than anyone I know. I love him, adore him, am in awe of him, respect him, treasure him, and LIKE him. It is true that God can do amazingly more than we could ever hope or imagine because He has. At 19 when I said "I will" I never imagined how it would be. The hard times really have been bearable with him by my side and the good times have been extraordinary with him. Trust me on this...we owe it ALL to our Lord. The two of us could never have done this marriage thing alone. We would've given up a long time ago. There's too many opportunities to be selfish or insecure or stubborn. God has done a lot of chipping away at our attitudes and natures and He's still chipping but His grace in our lives has been overwhelming. When Bill sang a few weeks ago "were it not for grace, I could tell you where I'd be", wow, I know where I would be and it's not where I want to be. Covered in His grace and my marrage covered in His grace is the only safe zone for me.
Happy 25th anniversary honey, I love you more than you'll ever know.

Monday Morning Perspective

Actually, it's monday afternoon but been enjoying myself way too much to stop and get on the computer.
Yesterday we continued the series on suffering. It was awesome. Eddie preached with boldness and heart. It was truly convicting to think about the things I have withheld from His Lordship and the times I have acted as though I have a Savior but I make myself Lord. It's not my heart's desire to do that but so many times I act as though it is. It has to be our daily almost hourly focus to surrender lordship to Christ. It's not about our making Him Lord because He Is Lord but our acknowledgement of that and surrendering to it.
So today is day one of our time away for our 25th anniversary. The church gave us a trip but we still have to plan that one. Eddie had already planned this one to Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge since this is one of the places we honeymooned. We drove up last night to this cabin that some friends are letting us enjoy. It was dark and we couldn't tell much about the area last night but this morning in the light it was all beautiful. It sits on this mountain with a glorious view. I thought about the fact that so many times we wander around in the dark not realizing how beautiful things around us are until we let the true light of Christ shine and we refuse to live in the darkness any more. Oh well, no more preachy. Just suffice it to say that we are in adorable cabin with a spectacular view and I am with my man whom I love more all the time (more tomorrow on our actual anniversary date).
We started the day at the Apple Barn for lunch, delicious!! We drove down to Gatlinburg and walked around the village, gotta love that place. Ended up at some outlet stores and now talking about what's for dinner, probably a great place called Old Mill (I think). Can't wait for tomorrow, our 25th wedding anniversary. What a great place I'm in at this point in my life both physically (mountain cabin) and relationally with my hubby. Love you all. Have a blessed day.

Birthday Boy

Today is my honey's 50th birthday so I just have to give a shout-out to him. I'll blog more on him on Sept. 1st our anniversary but just had to say a few things, ok 50 things.
50 remembrances, reasons I love you, things about you...you get the picture:
1. stayed with me 1/2 your life
2. you're gorgeous
3. your eyes still make me melt
4. you haven't lost your hair
5. you're my spiritual leader
6. you put up with my moods
7. you don't yell at me, much
8. you drive me nuts when I drive you in the car
9. you let me stay home and raise my kids, forever grateful
10. you are 5 decades young
11. still hot
12. wouldn't want anyone else for my pastor
13. I get to sleep with my pastor LOL
14. you listen or at least act like it when I give my opinion(s)
15. remember when I held the football (for hours) while you practiced kicking it
16. you never kicked my hand or arm or fingers
17. you are my favorite preacher
18. you always looked good in a baseball or football uniform
19.you would still look good
20. you eat my cooking and don't complain
21. you take us out and don't complain
22. you are neater than you used to be
23. you kept your promise to do all the yard work
24. remember Yesterdays?
25. I fell in love with your laugh, still am
26. life is fun with you
27. you are a great Dad
28. an awesome husband
29. you are lots of fun on vacation
30. remember our 1st cruise?
31. remember all the cruises?
32.remember the prom?
33. remember our first church, oh my.
34. you're a good driver, but I'm better
35. loved watching you play ball
36. love watching your kids play
37. I remember being glared at by your exes and their family
38. I remember your exes being everywhere
39. life has been a blast with you
40. Garden City will always be my favorite place with you
41. and Gatlinburg
42. you love Jesus
43. we led our kids to Jesus together
44. you are my partner in every way
45. you let me move furniture around, alone
46. you are the best decision I made after deciding to follow Christ
47. your parents have every reason to be proud
48. you have made your testimony work for you
49. you took the sports platform and gave it to Christ
50. you are the love of my life now and forever
HAPPY BIRTHDAY HONEY!!!! I love you!!

Monday Morning Perspective

I don't even know where to start, so I'll just start.
Last week I didn't blog because it would just be depressing. See the first week of school is the most depressing time of my whole year other than when they go back after the holidays. We moved Chrissie back to Anderson last weekend came home Sunday night and the others started school on Monday. My mood was gloomy and I knew everything I would write would be gloomy so I just decided to spare you all and keep all the gloom to myself. But then then the weekend came...God is soooo good. What a weekend.
We had the entire staff including staff wives and staff kids over for a cookout and swim on Saturday. We had our new minister of music (yay) and his family over so everyone could just enjoy themselves and get to know one another. I had the best time!!! God has blessed way more than we deserve. Then Sunday...what an awesome service. Did not plan on it being a squaller, really needed fresh makeup. Bill Howard (new min of music) shared his testimony and sang and the Holy Spirit just had His way. It was overwhelming. Millbrook is in for such a treat as this family comes to join us. I don't know if you have ever met anyone and felt like you had known them forever but that's how Eddie and I felt the first time we sat down to share with them. I know it's just God's Spirit in them recognizing God's Spirit in us, just a God thing. They have 4 of the finest kids we've ever been around, true evidence of godly raising. I'm so excited I feel like I'm going to bust out of my skin. They are the real deal, genuine if I've ever met genuine. Love them all to death.
As for the sermon, WOW!! I needed that so much. Eddie preached on sharing our faith. I've heard a lot of sermons on that lately, God knows I must really need it. He talked about sharing OUR faith and not letting the fear of not having all the answers deter us. I'm so glad he pointed out the importance of living it out and not just talking a good game. Our words mean nothing if our lifestyle cannot back it up. I loved the illustration of the closer in baseball coming in to save the game and blowing it. I have my own blown saves as God has given me opportunities to share and for many different reasons I haven't done it. So glad I serve a God who redeems and sustains, forgives and continues to give us more opportunities. He is definitely a risk taking God when He entrusts things to me. I am so grateful and owe Him more than I could ever repay, praise Him that I don't have to.
THEN... Sunday night came. The deacons and church gave Eddie a 50th birthday party. They presented us with a trip of our choosing since it's also our 25th anniversary soon. Eddie has been with me half of his life, oh my. We had so much fun. What a gracious church family we have. Thank you so much Millbrook for such a special time and for all of the gifts bestowed on Eddie for his birthday. He's most deserving in my opinion. As Harry Harmon talked about our time here and how our children have grown up here, I was just undone. I thought what a blessing it really is to raise my kids for so long with the same church family who has prayed over them and loved them and watched them grow. His compliments to Eddie for spending time with them and not allowing ministry to interfere with his calling as a Dad were right on the head. Thank you again Millbrook for seeing that as his first calling and always encouraging that family time. Our kids are who they are in part because you have been church to them and they have grown up loving the church instead of feeling like they had to compete with it for their Dad like so many do. You truly are our family and we love you.
Ok, that has to be it for now. I know you are tired of reading and I have to save some for later. God's blessings to you and remember to take those opportunities God gives us to share OUR faith.

Happy Birthday, Jessica

Well, this birthday greeting is a day late because we spent your birthday planning and celebrating your surprise party. You need to know you have a great big sister and a great friend in Michael Hux who came up with this idea and worked so hard to pull it off. They wanted something very special for you and I think you got it. The party was a blast. You have some great friends.

19!!! OH MY GOODNESS. Where has the time gone?! You have grown up to be a beautiful young lady but my it seems like it happened overnight. You have been the biggest hoot most of the time. Your infectious laugh with dimples on the side, your sweet smile and even sweeter heart, your love for the underdog and loner shows the heap of compassion you have. I am so proud to call you my daughter, my friend. You are so precious in every way.

God has some big plans ahead for you. Don't ever sell yourself short or settle because He can do great and mighty things with someone who is sold out to Him. I am amazed at Christ in you and your willingness to serve Him in unselfish ways. Living a selfish, me-centered, the world-revolves-around-me life is BORING. Continue to pour it all out for Him and you will have a great adventure ahead of you.

Happy Birthday! I love you soooo.

Monday Morning Perspective

What a great continuation in I Peter we had yesterday. Eddie began our Christian Travel Guide for Marriage with a great message. He dealt with the keys to a wife's heart and how to go about treating them. I loved what he said about us trying to give others what we want ourselves. I think that's the natural tendency which is why we have to work at our marriages. I think a lot of people don't think you should have to work at a marriage but that seems silly to me. Anything worth having takes work, but I believe it's the greatest thing bar none to work for.
I must say that Eddie was very generous with his words towards me. I felt very unworthy of them and he is just extremely kind. Someone said that he only stopped short of calling himself a wimp. Trust me, I wouldn't marry a wimp. He is much better at this marriage thing than he gives himself credit for. I know him as my husband and my pastor and I would never choose anyone else for either role. He is my best friend, has been for 25 years of marriage plus dating years. I know a lot of pastors who are great at what they do and a lot of men whose wives claim them to be great husbands. But, he's the only one who does it for me. I've never met a man that I would choose over him and 25 years later I would do it all over again. Marriage is so worth working for, fighting for. One thing we know is that Satan is out to destroy our lives and our homes. It is worth fighting him to the death over. If you're struggling, please keep working. I know it can be hard at times but don't give up. Our families are worth whatever we have to do to work it out.

Happy Birthday, Chrissie

Wow, baby girl. I have now had you 1/2 of my life, that's just unbelieveable. You have definitely been one of the best things in my life these past 22 years. God took one of His biggest risks when He placed someone as precious as you into my arms 22 years ago but know this...I have not stopped thanking Him. I never felt more unworthy and yet more grateful than when He blessed me and your Dad with you. You have grown up well, baby. It has been a blast watching you grow from that strong-willed little girl into this (still strong-willed) beautiful young lady who loves Jesus and has dedicated her life to serving Him and living for Him. My prayer has always been for you to grow in His wisdom and His knowledge, that you would grow in favor with Him and those in your path, and that you would do great and mighty things for His glory. He has blessed you beyond measure, never forget that we owe it all to Him. I never thought even God could love you more than me but I know He does, just keep loving Him back.

I get more joy from you than you can imagine. You're still my daughter but I consider you a true friend. Happy 22nd birthday to my favorite 22 year old in the whole world. You are making me old with all of these birthdays but I wouldn't have it any other way. I love you so.

Back up and running

Ok, my computer has been giving me fits so had to get it fixed. Yikes, I always swore I would not be computer friendly and now it drives me nuts to be without it for just a few days.
Well since I missed being able to give my monday morning perspective, I will just say it was amazing...loved it loved it. Great sermon for all of us as we celebrate our country and patriotism. Speaking of patriotism let me just say we should all be praying for our first family of SC. It's heart-breaking and nerve-wracking all at the same time. I have to say I have much respect for Jenny Sanford and the way she is conducting herself and at this point controlling her tongue. I really don't know that I would be so kind. I think most of us would be lashing out and tearing him apart but she is protecting her family and being very gracious. We all know that Satan is out to destroy the family but I think at the same time God is at work tearing down our facades and stripping us of our fakeness. Let's pray God gets much glory from this.
We did get to enjoy a few days in Charleston with some friends who welcomed us to spend a few of their vacation days with them, so very thankful. It's always good to get away and I must say for me there's no time I feel closer to God than at the beach. It's just always been my very favorite place. I told them while we were there that we had taken our children to a beach long before they could even walk because they HAD to like it since Eddie and I are so crazy about it. It's the family favorite for vacation. We will be gettting a week there later this summer and I can't wait.
It's been such a busy summer, can hardly believe it's July. I have to say it's my favorite time of the year. I love the heat ( the hotter the better), my kids out of school (although they don't spend as much of their day with me as they used to), vacations, baseball games (and there have been lots of those), a more relaxed schedule (definitely not a relaxed pace). I just love all of it.
I am so excited about what God is doing in our church and what He's going to do. He has been working in some lives lately and I'm so thankful for the stories I've been priviledged to hear. Some of our faithful are hurting and we need to pray daily for them and watch God work. Let's never forget that He is always busy at work even when we don't know exactly what He's doing. He's never absent. Praise Him for that.
Ok, back to the fam. It was good getting on this keyboard again. Have a blessed evening.

Something to rant about

Warning...may contain much sarcasm and appear to be the voice of a very aggravated person yet with at least some justified anger.

Don't you just love having to deal with people who have a god-like syndrome when it comes to how they view themselves? The occassional person you run into at the checkout counter or in the restaurant is one thing, but when that person is closely intertwined in much of your life and the lives of your children it rises to another level, that level that makes you want to put your hands on someone or at least give them a good tongue lashing letting them know they're not quite as important as they think they are. It's someone who thinks that they can control your life and what comes into play for you. Those are the people who don't realize and think on the level of fellow Christians who know that nothing comes to pass in our lives without passing by His throne. He alone is the one who puts us where we are to be, brings people and things and circumstances in our lives that are to be there. These self-ordained God wannabes think they really do have power over you and they use it to try and influence your choices and decisions and God forbid if it's not the choice they want you to make, especially if your choice means choosing a God thing over their thing.

One problem with these people is they don't have a good sense of reality. They don't see things the way most do. Their view seems skewed and they tend to sense things that are way off base.

Another problem with them is they tend to think all the good goes to their credit and the bad is because of others. They don't have a proper view of themselves or the situation.

I wish I could say that I've risen past this kind of thing bothering me, but that would be a lie. Sure some days it just seems to roll off my back and then there are days like today when you've just had enough of self-righteous, self-important people that just seem miserable and intent on making others miserable and if they can't, woe be unto us all. I have learned however that God really does make all things right for those who belong to Him. I also know that every person, whether Christian or not is in our life for a purpose. He works things out for our good and I've seen the revenge He's taken before which definitely makes me not want to be on that side of things. I know that He is the God of yesterday, today, and forever and that nothing is said or done or thought that He doesn't know about and He WILL make it all right in His time. Now His time is something I struggle with as well. I want it to happen today and I want to be there when it comes down but then I remember how grateful I am in my own life for His mercy and grace and love and compassion and forgiveness. I have to admit that I still pray that they choke on their supper so maybe they'll call out to the ONE TRUE God and realize it's not them. Actually I pray a lot for their salvation as well because I can't imagine a truly saved person being so mean and hateful and self-absorbed and with so little joy in their life. God keep me from becoming that very kind of person that I can't stand the most. Use all the stuff, even the stuff Satan tries to use to get the best of us and make us bitter, to make us more like You. Help us to forgive and not to hold on to the words that some say intended to harm us or hurt us and instead give those words over to You and allow You to heal us and convict others. Help us not to get in the flesh and actually smack someone and again and again I ask that You keep a muzzle over our mouth so that we don't act like those that make us so mad. Help us to turn the other cheek knowing that it makes you even madder than it does us. Guard our hearts and our minds in Christ Jesus our Lord and protect above all my children, Your children, from the evil and evil ones who try to have influence over them.

Father's Day

So it's Father's Day so I thought I would talk a little about my father and my kids' father but saving my cheesy stuff for him til our 25th comes around. Anyway couldn't let this day pass without saying something about 2 of the most special people in my life so here goes...
Daddy, you are such a huge blessing in my life. Growing up you were always the steady rock when things seemed somewhat chaotic. Can't remember ever hearing you raise your voice but you sure had our respect and I knew the boundaries. Boy, am I glad for those boundaries. They helped me many times to make the smart choice. You taught me so much about how to treat people. I used to get aggravated when we couldn't go anywhere without people stopping us to talk to you, but I realize how people truly have always liked you. You give people time and at least always seemed as though you were interested in their life and happenings. You taught me not to rush through life but to take time for others. You passed down a strong Christian heritage. There was never any doubt where you stood or what your convictions were. We always knew better than to even ask on Saturday if we were going to church Sunday. When we did ask we would just get that look as if to say, "unless one of us is dead or dying, yes we will be there". I'm so grateful. You let us know early on that that's where we would be come Sunday. I'm also grateful that you taught me so much about sports. You didn't treat me like a boy but you made me aware that sports was something girls could enjoy as well. I'm so glad you included me and taught me because you know I have spent most of my adult life on one ball field or another. You made family priority and I appreciate that. It was never just you and Jim but we all went places as a family.
Thanks Dad for all you taught me but mostly thank you for showing me Jesus in every way and making Him Priority in our family. You made me fall in love with my heavenly father because of the kind of father you were. I love you so much.

Now for you honey. I know you don't esteem one day over any other but since I occassionally do, here goes. It has been a blast raising four kids with you. They are so blessed to have a Dad of true conviction. You have shown them what serving Christ is all about. You have shown them how to balance ministry and family without either having to suffer. You've kept Christ first but never allowed church to take first place or any place over them. They will never be able to say that you neglected them for the sake of ministry and I know that's why they love not only Jesus as much as they do but also they love the church. It's never been more important to their Dad than they were.
You absolutely have to be the best dad for boys and girls I've ever known. You enjoyed dance recitals and cheerleading competitions even though you didn't really get what you were watching. You cheered them on and always thought they were the best. You've put up with boys hanging around even when you had rather sent them packing. You put up with pajama parties and girls giggling and talking late into the night, loudly, even on Saturday nights. Whatever the boys ever accomplish with sports, they owe a lot of credit to you. You were never too busy to shoot hoops or play catch. You made a mound in the backyard and caught endless pitches, sometimes taking it on the shin or pulling balls out of the pool. You taught them so much about the game but mostly about being a team player and working hard. You've taught them that there's no place for playing for yourself and your own stats. It's about the team and in a culture where everyone is out for themselves and what they can get out of it, it's very rare to see two boys who really play for the team. The credit for that goes to you as well.
You always said that if your kids turned out to be stinkers it would be because they spent so much time WITH their dad and not away from him. Well, they've been stinkers a time or two but mostly they've been real treasures. Thanks for making our kids priority and giving so much of yourself to being a great Dad. We all love you and are blessed to call you ours.

Monday Morning Perspective

We continued our journey through 1Peter yesterday with a word to the christians work ethic. I've spent the past 21 almost 22 years as a stay-at-home mom. Throughout those years I was constantly reminding myself who I ultimately worked for because as a stay-at-home mom many of you know that there's no pay check which means no raise for a job well done, no co-workers to bond with or pats on the back. It was lonely at times having only little ones to talk to or have lunch with, but let me quickly say that I think I have had the absolute best job in all the world. I wouldn't take anything for it. Most of the rewards may come way down the road but trust me, they do come.
I love the Rebekah principle no matter how many times I hear it. It's something you can use whether with your job or volunteer work, as a student or as an athlete. In our world it doesn't take long to look around and see that very few actually implement that principle. Let me encourage you to be one of them who uses that principle and teaches it to your children. I pray that I implement it myself and that my children will every time they step on the field or into the classroom or on the job site.
Have a super blessed Monday.

This one's for you Jess

I have been trying to do this for several weeks. I thought I could do it without so much emotion several weeks before graduation but I was wrong. I was even crazy enough to try it the day before...that was a disaster. So now I am going to try this several days later, may take a few tries to get it done. Anyway...Jess this is a dedication to you for your high school graduation.

My my my how time really does fly. I know for you school must have seemed to drag on forever but from the time you started 1st grade it seems like time began to race by at break-neck speed. Especially this past year, it seems like since Sept. everywhere I turned people and things seemed to be trying to hurry you on through high school while I hung on for dear life trying to make time slow down and enjoy every "last" event. Your last time cheering on the sidelines, your last time cheering for the basketball team, your last pageant, your last Homecoming game, your last rivalry games, your last prom, your last basketball game, and on and on and on. It's so hard seeing things end even though I know there are so many exciting things still ahead.

I just want you to know in writing how tremendously proud of you I am. I told you that if you could graduate South Aiken High School with your morals intact, your love for Christ strong, and still holding fast to your convictions, that you would be my hero. Well, baby girl, you are a hero of mine. Being able to accomplish that alone is not an easy task these days in a public high school where so much is thrown at you from every angle, but also to be a leader is a great accomplishment. You have been a great witness and example of how powerful Christ in you can be. He has proved Himself faithful time and time again in your life. He has been the author and perfector of your faith. He has proven that He can be your best friend when it seems there are no other friends around.

It's been a joy to see you lead in your youth group. It's been a parent's dream to never have to make you go to church or be involved. Throughout your years as a teenager you have served in your church and studied His Word through your bible study groups there. You have sought out others to join you on world changers trips and beach camps. You are a shining example of bringing others to Him.

Our prayer for you has always been that you would love Christ and desire Him above everything and everyone else. That you would seek Him with all of your heart. That you would run hard after Him, clinging to Him in the rough times and rejoicing with Him in the good times. That you would keep your eyes fixed upon Him, your heart set on Him and never compromise your convictions for anyone.

This marathon is not over just because high school is over. God has set the race before you and promised to run it with you. Stay on the narrow path for that is where you will find the joy and peace and direction from your Lord. You may not find many willing to run that way with you, but He will never leave you or forsake you. He will be the greatest friend you will ever have.

The future is so bright and promising. I can't wait to see what He has in store for you. I love you. You are everything and more your Dad and I could ever want you to be and we are so very proud of you!! Congratulations on your graduation.

Monday Morning Perspective

Dare to be different---a challenge for Christians of all ages I believe. Yesterday I left our student sunday school teachers meeting at the same time that the 9:00 service was letting out. I got caught up going in the opposite direction of everyone else. It was tough trying to get by and get to where I was going when everyone else was moving opposite of me and coming at me. I thought of that as I sat through the sermon, how tough it is in life to be going in a direction that is not the norm. As Christians we are called to be different and at the same time influence and impact others without being obnoxious and turning them off. It's always a struggle to feel like you are fitting in just enough to gain others trust to be able to influence them for Christ, yet not so much that we compromise. I don't believe that that is a struggle only for teens. I think we all struggle a certain amount with that. We are called to be holy in ALL we do, from the way we talk to the places we go to how we dress and how we deal with relationships. It seems overwhelming at times and something we can definitely not do apart from the Holy Spirit. I am so thankful for Peter and this epistle he wrote and I am thankful for a husband who preaches it with such passion and boldness.